The constant back and forth between self-awareness coupled with a resolve to be authentic to oneself on the one the hand, and integrity as a compassionate and courageous intercourse with the world, on the other, seems to be a way to a life well lived because it deepens empathy, encourages curiosity, promotes creativity, sharpens the sense of discernment, which frees agency.

Balancing desires presupposes that both partners have a sense of what they like and wish to experience, that they are aware of their sexual fantasies and that they are prepared to talk openly with each other.

Until I physically realised I was held hostage by my inner-critics, I found it difficult to move, work or walk so tired I felt.

I had l abandoned my inner-child to an inner-psychopath and its gang of twisted acolytes, I was in the fog, the bog, the wasteland.

Journaling is a great and proven tool to start the process of re-establishing balance and clarity and promote acceptance which is a door to getting unstuck and move forward.

…I didn’t know that I could heal from the loss and the shame I felt about this mess that I had created. I thought I was responsible for it and that was the end of it. It took me a long, long time to realise that far from taking responsibility for it, I was instead punishing myself endlessly.